The past three months have been a whirlwind. The needs of my kids, commitments to others and my growing business were kicked into overdrive. On top of that my husband was unexpectedly offered a new job that fit his skill set perfectly. Great news for our family but, unfortunately, we had to sell our house and move to a new city.
If you think back to the last time you moved, you may remember that there are a million-and-one things added to your to-do list. Things like:
- keeping your home spotless in case there’s an unexpected showing
- hours searching the internet looking for a new home
- packing every. single. thing. in your home
- paperwork galore
- unpacking when you get to your new home
- switching addresses for all of your bills, accounts, etc.
- closing down accounts for one home and setting up appointments to get utilities started in a new home
- finding new primary doctors, pediatricians, hairdressers, etc.
- searching your way around a new town
- finding a new church, making new friends, meeting new neighbors, etc.
- and the list goes on and on…
But the rest of your life doesn’t slow down. At all!
Since I was already behind in almost every area of my life, I was at my wits end and decided to finally find a way to catch up. Even though I’m a DIYer by nature, I learned that I can’t do it all myself. At least not in this phase of life.
I finally learned that sometimes you just need to ask for help.
And ask for help I did. I teamed up with a professional organizer to help me organize my entire house, found a bookkeeper to take care of the part of my business I like the least, hired a designer and virtual assistant for my blogs, and even had someone clean my house.
These are all things I’m perfectly capable of doing myself and I even like to do them (mostly). But as a work from home mom, my kids are always around. I found myself saying, “wait just a minute” more often than not. Even though my kids are more important than the whatever project I was working on at the time, I certainly didn’t show it. And since my husband and I are the only ones who can raise our kids, I decided to finally ask for help for some of the other things on my packed to-do list. In most cases, the people helping are professionals in their field, so they are better and faster than me anyway!
If you can relate to this feeling of being overwhelmed and always behind, I want to encourage you to ask for help!
In some cases, it’s actually more economical to hire someone to help because you can focus on income producing activities. But, if hiring someone isn’t in your budget, there are a ton of other options!
Ask your spouse for help.
As women, we often think we need to do it all but we don’t always verbalize to our husband that we need help. Or perhaps we just don’t verbalize in the correct way. Most often, if your husband knows you are overwhelmed and need help, he is more than willing to help.
If you’re skilled at accounting, you could organize someones finances in half they time they could. Trade services with someone who has a different skill set like, sewing, babysitting, or cleaning.
Work with a friend.
Sometimes just having a friend around to help can keep you focused and and encourage you to keep going when you want to stop. Plus, it just makes it more fun!
When you’re overwhelmed, you don’t have to go under. Sometimes, you just have to ask for help. I’d love to hear from you! What kind of tasks do you hire out when you’re to-do list is out of control?