How to Ask for Help when You’re Overwhelmed

how to ask for help when you're overshelmed

The past three months have been a whirlwind. The needs of my kids, commitments to others and my growing business were kicked into overdrive. On top of that my husband was unexpectedly offered a new job that fit his skill set perfectly. Great news for our family but, unfortunately, we had to sell our house and move to a new city. 

If you think back to the last time you moved, you may remember that there are a million-and-one things added to your to-do list. Things like:

  • keeping your home spotless in case there’s an unexpected showing
  • hours searching the internet looking for a new home
  • packing every. single. thing. in your home
  • paperwork galore
  • unpacking when you get to your new home
  • switching addresses for all of your bills, accounts, etc.
  • closing down accounts for one home and setting up appointments to get utilities started in a new home
  • finding new primary doctors, pediatricians, hairdressers, etc.
  • searching your way around a new town
  • finding a new church, making new friends, meeting new neighbors, etc.
  • and the list goes on and on…

But the rest of your life doesn’t slow down. At all!

Since I was already behind in almost every area of my life, I was at my wits end and decided to  finally find a way to catch up. Even though I’m a DIYer by nature, I learned that I can’t do it all myself. At least not in this phase of life.

I finally learned that sometimes you just need to ask for help.

And ask for help I did. I teamed up with a professional organizer to help me organize my entire house, found a bookkeeper to take care of the part of my business I like the least, hired a designer and virtual assistant for my blogs, and even had someone clean my house.

These are all things I’m perfectly capable of doing myself and I even like to do them (mostly). But as a work from home mom, my kids are always around. I found myself saying, “wait just a minute” more often than not. Even though my kids are more important than the whatever project I was working on at the time, I certainly didn’t show it.  And since my husband and I are the only ones who can raise our kids, I decided to finally ask for help for some of the other things on my packed to-do list. In most cases, the people helping are professionals in their field, so they are better and faster than me anyway!

If you can relate to this feeling of being overwhelmed and always behind, I want to encourage you to ask for help!

In some cases, it’s actually more economical to hire someone to help because you can focus on income producing activities. But, if hiring someone isn’t in your budget, there are a ton of other options!

Ask your spouse for help.
As women, we often think we need to do it all but we don’t always verbalize to our husband that we need help. Or perhaps we just don’t verbalize in the correct way. Most often, if your husband knows you are overwhelmed and need help, he is more than willing to help.

Trade services.
If you’re skilled at accounting, you could organize someones finances in half they time they could. Trade services with someone who has a different skill set like, sewing, babysitting, or cleaning.

Work with a friend.
Sometimes just having a friend around to help can keep you focused and and encourage you to keep going when you want to stop. Plus, it just makes it more fun!

When you’re overwhelmed, you don’t have to go under. Sometimes, you just have to ask for help.  I’d love to hear from you! What kind of tasks do you hire out when you’re to-do list is out of control?

Christine

Visit Christine at  i Dream of Clean and Spring Cleaning 365.

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"Hi I'm Anna! Welcome to Ask Anna where I love to answer your household questions! I have always loved to clean, organize and decorate and this blog is a fun way for me to help you love it too! I am a busy mom of a beautiful little girl and I'm married to the love of my life. Together we fill our days with projects , laughter and love. I serve an incredible God and overall I'd say I'm truly blessed!"

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  1. 1

    Moving is the pits, even if the rest of your life is chaos-free.. Good for you, asking for help! I think that’s something women struggle with, since we feel like we need to do it all ourselves. Years ago I hired a cleaning lady, and my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner!!

    BTW, I’m hoping to never move again. Like, ever. ;-)
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  2. 3

    I love this post Christine! It’s SO true, sometimes we just can’t do it all, I feel ya on that!!

    Anna :)

  3. 5

    I feel the same way. We should get help when we need it. My choice was to get a cleaning lady. It frees me up to do other things I would rather be doing. I hope you and your family enjoy your new home and area.

  4. 7

    Great post! Asking for help is definitely something that most of us need to remember! I seriously can’t imagine packing up our house to move – I think we will be here for life. :) Good luck with your move!
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  5. 9

    Try packing up someone whose lived on a ranch for 35 yrs, and that family moved onto that ranch, that was his parent’s ranch, so not only do you have the parent’s stuff, but you also have the grandparents stuff to deal with.
    It’s a busy time around the ranch, and someday’s we just don’t know if were coming and going, with checking cows every two hrs 24/7, to doing chores, working in town, feeding and caring for sick calves, making sure that the 21 sick calves are taken care of and have had all of there shots and bottles, treating cows for mastitis, drafting a calf onto a cow that lost hers, only to find out she’d rather kill your $600 4 day old baby that you bought at the salebarn, than take it as her own.

    • 10

      I don’t envy you at all! We went through a bit of the same thing last year with my grandmother but I can’t imagine three generations worth of stuff. That experience actually helped me let go of my “keep everything just in case” tendencies and become even more organized. because I don’t want my children to go through the same thing. And I know nothing about farming but I’m so thankful for people like you who do!!
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